I put this here because I think this is tremendously important for me to remember and integrate into my being.
It's an insight from my long-time, heart-of-my-heart friend K.
"...when we're so fully focused on relationship with another person/our surroundings/our activities that our ego (in the Jungian sense of that part of the psyche which mediates between our core Self and the world, and accumulates baggage and gets mistaken for who we are), falls away, we fall not only into Oneness, but also into a state where we are so fully in our integrity that it is hard to knock us off course.
In that state, it becomes easy to:
all at the same time.
My friend J sent me a link to a Susan Piver video...in which she talked about the placement of intense attention being love. This is what I wrote back:
So, to summarise:
When we're amidst all the baggage, our bodyminds have to scream at us to get our attention, so of course we react from a heightened sense of threat which is mediated through what we've been taught is appropriate and proportionate (ie. generally inappropriate and over the top, whether that means going ballistic or falling into passivity and paralysis, with all the consequent fallout).
When we're in Oneness, we've stepped away from baggage, so have clarity. Our bodyminds are sending signals we can hear properly at their appropriate volume, and so we're able to respond in ways that are appropriate (if not socially normal).
This is the classic kung fu movie sifu, who, having wrangled with their ego, is able to respond calmly, minimally, and with compassion from a place of deep power; their actions are small, their effects are huge. In these films, the hero's journey is always from ego to enlightenment; the final fight scene is always a result of the antagonist's refusal to recognise the destructive path of ego, and the hero wins by not engaging in struggle but simply placing their attention on and flowing with Oneness.
So that's as far as I've got with this stuff."
My very, very wise friend K.
Your Inner Pilot Light"