I am becoming acutely aware that it is pretty unusual in the circles I travel to have had a happy childhood home.
I think this is because healers (and potential healers) have hard childhoods that contribute greatly to the good work they are able to do in the world. Martha Beck says that Wayfinders (her word for healers, shamans, priests and spirit workers) sign up for especially painful youths so they can experience first hand what they themselves have come here to heal.
I believe her.
In hosting Benjamin, I'm finding that our family's style, with its joy, silliness, open and loving communication and gentle support of each other, is pretty new to him. And so it is with many of our friends, who may have had parents who loved them very much, but who either didn't know how to express that love or didn't have the skills to provide tender, nurturing support to their children themselves.
It's causing me to look at my family with particularly grateful eyes.
My own childhood wasn't much fun, but I got enough love to get me started in figuring out how to build a very sweet and tender family of my own. That's something to be incredibly grateful about. Building the 10 of Pentacles
and the 10 of Cups
is what we are doing here together.
Every time a new friend or acquaintance wanders through our lives and allows me to see this beautiful reality with my own eyes, I am delighted anew.
And every time I think, "The more I look elsewhere for something else, the more I am directed back to the bounty I have right here. Here, in this house, is more love than I can even imagine. Here, inside of my heart, is everything I need to give and receive of this great bounty. I am one lucky human being.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you."